how to phrase your i-ching question:
what kind of questions work best with the I-Ching?
First and foremost -- it is traditional in China to say "please" as part of your question when you consult the I-Ching.
general questions vs. specific questions
Many people find their I-Ching readings are most successful when they ask general questions like: "Please tell me about the forces affecting my relationship", or "What are the issues surrounding _____, please". Many experts approach the I-Ching with an even more general strategy asking simple questions like: "Tell me about my love life, please". This approach reflects the possibility that the oracle frequently offers insight into a wide variety of related topics.
While many people tend to ask more specific questions like "Will Catherine get married to Stephen?", "Will I find true love?", "Is my relationship over?" -- one must remember that the I-Ching often speaks about the background of a situation, related issues, or psychological states that affect the outcome. While the I-Ching may respond with stunningly direct answers when the future is clear, more often than not, the I-Ching will provide a framework for you to better understand the situation and predict its outcome.
No one can tell you exactly how to phrase your question. The best approach is to try several kinds of questions and see which works best.
We use our own, modern set of meanings for the I-Ching: Book of Changes which are much easier to understand than older translations found elsewhere..